Retired Teacher Learns a Life Lesson: Ask for Hospice Care Sooner
Wayne, a Janesville native, watched his father and father-in-law have all-too-brief hospice experiences, and he learned a vital lesson: Hospice care should have started sooner.
A retired teacher and principal, Wayne took that lesson to heart.
“We didn’t get my dad in early enough. The last week and a half, we knew he wasn’t going to live. It wasn’t like we ignored that he was at that point, it was that we didn’t want to accept that he was at that point, so we hesitated a bit to reach out,” he remembers.
“When my father-in-law was at the end of life, the family enlisted hospice—but it was the day of his passing. That was WAY too late.”
So when Wayne’s mother, Yvonne, was in failing health, he and his sister asked for Agrace—much sooner. He says, “We got my mom involved as we saw the handwriting on the wall. Hospice was another set of eyes, another support network, not only for her, but for the family.”

Wayne’s parents, Yvonne and Wesley
Comfort, Comfort, Comfort
Yvonne had a couple diagnoses at the end of her life. She was prone to falling out of bed, sometimes prompting her caregivers to consider the emergency room. Wayne explains, “When Agrace got involved, they sent someone to check her out, got her back in bed, bandaged whatever they needed to, and she was fine. The amount of trauma we avoided with my mother was amazing.”
“Our whole focus was comfort, comfort, comfort,” he notes. “Our care plan was our guiding document. Every time we had a question, we asked, ‘How does this fit her care plan?’ Every decision we made revolved around that notion of comfort and was based on that plan. We talked about it; we shared it.”
“One thing that stood out to me was the willingness of the Agrace people to listen to us and respect our wishes. I never felt that what I had to say or the questions I had were foolish. Anytime I called, I always got a response. And I called with some wackadoodle questions!”
Pre-filled comfort medications: “The medicine my mom would eventually need was available to her and had been prescribed with a doctor’s order; there was no lag in time. So when she was in bed and in a bad way, we didn’t have to wait for a doctor,” Wayne remembers gratefully. “When that stuff happens, it’s on a Friday night or a Sunday afternoon, and what kind of help are you going to get at that time of day?”
“In my mind, we hit it out of the park with my mom,” he concludes. “The sooner you get hospice in, the easier it is for the family. We knew she wasn’t going to live, and we didn’t want her to be in pain. We made a promise to my dad to take care of her. That’s what we did, and I have no regrets. None.”
“One thing that stood out to me was the willingness of the Agrace people to listen to us and respect our wishes.”
– Wayne, patients’ son